SESSIONS AND PRIVATE RITUALS

‘You have your own freedom.

You own your own freedom.

So instead of feeling that someone is taking your freedom from you, you are feeling that you are giving your freedom to someone. And then taking it back again.’

(Andy Buru, Rituals and Paradoxes)

We live in a world where many things that aren’t natural are normalized. Equally, many things that are natural and physiological are demonized, hidden, and unspoken about, leaving us to carry their weight in secret at the cost of our health and sanity.

Some secrets have been with us so long they’ve become part of us, even though it hurts to carry them. We hold onto desires we barely dare to dream of, thoughts we whisper so quietly they can’t be heard, but that light up behind our eyes when we think about them. Because the shame of exposure feels unbearable.

I’m offering you a space where you don’t have to whisper anymore. A space where your vulnerable, raw, deviant secrets can come to light. This isn’t a confessional, and I’m not a priest. It’s a space that’s warm, safe, and free of judgment, where you can feel free to feel alive. Because we all deserve to claim our own freedom and take agency over it.

how sessions work

The Breakthrough:
Each journey begins with a free 45-minute conversation, where we get to know each other and explore whether working together feels right for both of us.

If it does, you can schedule up to three one-hour individual sessions, taken at your own pace.

The Unfolding:
After these initial sessions, depending on your needs and desires for deeper exploration, we can commit to one of the following:

  • A series of five one-hour sessions for in-depth, talk-based exploration.

  • Three three-hour sessions for immersive work focused on embodiment, emotional depth, and personal transformation.

The introductory session takes place via Zoom.

The one-hour sessions can take place either on Zoom, in person in Brussels, or blended, depending on your wishes.

The experiential sessions can take place only in person, in Brussels or at reasonable travel distance, if you cover the transport cost.

this work may not be for you if:

  • You have not encountered or participated in any form of consent practice or communication.

  • You have never engaged with any form of self inquiry, self awareness and conscious self observation.

1:1 sessions

Perhaps you are a busy mother excelling professionally who is also in charge of the household and your kids’ schedules. You take pride in being seen as a superwoman, but deep down your real longing is to let go of control, be taken care of and have decisions be taken for you.

Maybe you have noticed a recurring pattern: you often find yourself slipping into a submissive position in conversations with your peers. You are aware of it and notice that it’s happening regularly, yet you don’t seem to be able to break this pattern, and it leaves you often disappointed that you didn’t speak up in that moment. You long to have the power and respect you know you deserve.

Or perhaps you have been living with chronic pain for years. Despite working hard to get your symptoms under control, their constant and unpredictable presence in your life has left you frustrated that you don’t seem to be able to live your life to the fullest. You long to feel in control of your body and your life.

Repeated power imbalances in our daily lives - and the ways we repress healthy responses to them – often surface as fantasies and desires, sexual or otherwise. There are always power dynamics at play in our daily relations/interactions/conversations, often operating subtly and outside our control. Sometimes, power imbalances are obvious; other times, they are so subtle you only notice them through their persistent, gnawing effect on your self confidence, until you find yourself wondering: ‘What happened to me? I used to be so confident...’

Whether you already know what your desire is, or you sense there might be a hidden power imbalance pattern somewhere in your life holding you back, but you can’t put your finger on it yet, I invite you to bring it to the light and explore it together.

Playing with power in a well defined framework with very clear rules such as BDSM allows us to slow down and examine how power works - both in relation to others and to yourself. Here, you get the chance to safely practice giving up your power and reclaiming it, consensually and consciously, and understand that you have agency over this exchange. Whether you’re curious about power dynamics in your relationships or within your own body, this is your space to explore, reflect, and reclaim your narrative.

you can reach out to me with:

  • An inquiry about your way of relating to your partner(s) or peers and a desire to look at your power related unconscious patterns.

  • A longing to deepen your body awareness.

  • A fantasy you would like to explore in depth, whether you are ready to experience it or not.

  • A drive to create more agency and choice in your relationship(s).

  • An intention to get better at feeling what you actually want and asking for it.

  • A desire to grow into your dominant persona, if you are a person identifying as feminine.

Exploring power dynamics together can take place through different modalities: dialogue, experimentation, customised practices or ritual, in a co-creative space designed to be as safe as possible. I will be fully present with you, to listen, reflect, mirror, and engage with the inquiry that you bring.

COUPLE sessions

Every couple relationship is a dance. Whether it’s a slow sensual tango, an energetic lindy hop, or a rhythmic salsa, what makes the dance work is communication, coordination, and rhythm between partners - but above all, trust. How much can I trust my partner enough to surrender my power to them for a moment? How much do I dare to let them lead me? How much can I let go and surrender, confident they will catch me and keep me safe?

In a relationship, as in life, it’s not healthy to always hold onto power. Constantly being in control can lead to exhaustion, fatigue, or all kinds of blockages – or drive us to seek unhealthy ways to surrender, like addictions, or frustration and explosive tensions between the partners.

Trust is also the foundation of feeling safe. Experiencing safety in your body with your partner is fundamental for a healthy and fulfilling sexual dynamic, and it opens the door to effortless orgasms, co-creative intimacy, and playful exploration.

Whether you already have an idea of the power dynamic you would like to explore, or you are curious to to dip your toes into bringing BDSM into your play, I invite you to explore this together.

you can reach out to me with:

  • An inquiry about your way of relating to your partner and a desire to look at unconscious patterns of power within your dynamic.

  • A longing to create more intimacy in the relationship.

  • A fantasy you would like to explore together in depth, whether you are ready to experience it or not.

  • An intention to get better at communicating your needs and desires in your relationship.

  • A desire to bring in BDSM and conscious kink into your play, but aren’t sure where to begin.

The sessions can take the form of dialogue, dominance – submission rituals or customised practices, all within a safe co-creative space. I will be fully present with you, to listen, reflect, mirror, guide your interaction and facilitate the process you are exploring together.

PRivate rituals

Rituals, play parties, workshops, and temples are bubbles of escape from the noisy tumult and tight constraints of societal norms and our own expectations, where we can lock out the outside world for a few moments and rest, grow, soothe our wounds, heal, or just be. These spaces are of permission and unbound exploration—whether inwards, outwards, or in a still moment outside of time. Here, anything can happen, yet nothing has to; we can be our true selves without the need to please, take our time, pause, and dare. Ideally, we return to the world afterward with more resilience, energy, aliveness, and a deeper capacity to face life's challenges.

Whether you’d like to organize a workshop around a specific theme, include a special ritual in your private play party, or create an entire temple with a conscious kink theme, I bring my creativity to the table , background in visual arts and consent work, and experience in organizing conscious events and play parties. I work with the following themes:

  • Consent and boundaries

  • Dominance and submission

  • Rejection and desire

  • Embodied meditations and dance

  • Trauma awareness work

  • Fantasies and taboos

  • Role play